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28 Aug 2017

Why it's OK to be controversial






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Recently, I posted a photo on Instagram asking people their opinion on lip fillers and directing them to my latest blog post on my experience getting them.

Engagement on my photo shot up. Lately, Instagram has been testing us all - I've noticed the effects of the algorithm changes too. My engagement has dropped, the number of new followers I'm acquiring has dropped. It's been a little...meh. I hear it's the same for most people I talk to or whose blogs I read. 

When I posted this photo, however, the comments started flowing in. The response was clear - people were opening up. People thanked me. Thanked me?! For simply stating my opinion on something. Some identified with me, some appreciated my transparency on the topic, others disagreed but were understanding of why one might get fillers. 

Just being honest about something that might not be the easiest thing for some people to be open about can make a difference ... even if only to a single person.

I gained about 60 new followers in the next 3 or 4 hours, quite a bit more than my usual daily growth. Yes, I do think that the photo itself was good. However, looking at the number of people that felt they wanted to share their opinions and experiences in my comments on the blog and under that Instagram photo, it was clearly more than just a pretty shot that worked in my favour.

I’m not saying you should hop on social media right now and start spouting every potentially antagonistic opinion you’ve ever had on every hot topic. There’s a way to be tactful about your thoughts without causing unnecessary controversy. Yet at the same time, we simply have to remember that whatever our opinion (and whatever the topic) - no matter whether it’s something as banal as “I hate beaches” or something more polarising such as your personal thoughts on Donald Trump - it's bound to displease somebody. 

I don’t feel the urge to offer my 2 pence on every conceivable topic. Of course I have opinions on them, but I don’t tend to necessarily share those on social media. I prefer to keep my Instagram a place of positivity and share only happy moments. Yet at the same time, I don’t want to censor myself if I feel compelled to speak up about a particular topic. Some people won’t like it; with others, my words might resonate.

My words could even help someone to see things in a new perspective. They could influence somebody and encourage them to do something they hadn't imagined they would do. They could even make someone's day.

So could yours.

So, yes ... I think it's absolutely OK to be controversial. Most importantly, I try to do so in a positive way. I'll talk openly about anything I do or feel that others might consider 'taboo' (such as fillers/cosmetic procedures, being an adult woman who doesn't necessarily want children, not feeling a desire to get married, etc.) in the hopes that I might encourage someone else to open their mind, to understand that we're all entitled to our own way of life, to accept that we should be able to do as we please with our own bodies. And in the hopes that maybe one day ... these topics won't be the slightest bit contentious at all.

Which controversial topics do you wish you could talk more openly about?

Photos by Luis Calow
Editing by me

15 comments :

  1. I love this post! You make such a good point - when we're scrolling through our feeds hourly, it's rare that something actually jumps off the page. Choosing to bring up a controversial topic is a great way to get people to perk up at your content and engage with it. Thanks for the inspiration!

    Jenn
    www.honeydewblog.com

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    1. Thank you, Jenn! I'm glad to have inspired you in some way :)

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  2. This post is so true. I feel like we live in a world where you are constantly trying to not offend anybody. I intend to just be true to myself. Thanks for your honesty!

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    1. A great way to put it, Marie! Thanks for your comment :)

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  3. Amazing dress! I never see something like that on the high street and cool pics.
    Maricel

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    1. Thanks, Maricel! It's definitely a unique dress, and so silky soft, too.

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  4. In today's world we have to many rules of engagement , but actual we only need to be truth to ourself and can't do anything wrong

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    1. Good point, Dieter. To be true to yourself is very important, instead of faking niceties just to please others.

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  5. You look stunning girl and love the look!!

    Lauren
    http://www.basicbabelauren.com

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  6. This was such an interesting post to read through - which I suppose in itself proves a point! With so much content now online coming from all directions, it's the interesting topics and stories that grab our attention, right?! On a different note, the imagery in this post is SO beautiful and artistic; such a babe!

    aglassofice.com
    x

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    1. Thanks so much, my love! So true - we see the same topics regurgitated over and over but to bring a fresh perspective to an interesting topic of debate I think is much more exciting.

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  7. Regarding the Algorithm style of IG, i don't feel the changes, maybe because I have few followers and still struggling how to grow my IG followers in a natural way. LOL! anyways can i say truthful with your photos? It looks so beautiful i love the color grading and the creative shoot is so beautiful. And you look awesome by the way :D

    https://itsbeyondimaginations.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thanks so much, Ann Catherine! I appreciate your lovely words :)

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  8. Nice article, thank you for the sharing

    GlassesShop

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